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Thursday, July 9, 2020

Life Advice

I saw this and thought it was so on point.

  1. I will not play hard to get, I will be easy to lose.
  2. I will only accept mutual relationships, where there is reciprocation.
  3. I will only accept apologies that are in the form of changed behavior.
  4. I will always trust my intuition.
  5. I will not be used for anything and I won’t allow anyone to disrespect me.
  6. I will take care of my body and nourish my mind.
  7. I will not ignore red flags.
  8. I will prioritize myself and my well being.
  9. I will strive to cultivate emotional intelligence.
  10. I will not make exceptions to my boundaries.
By Jennie Kim

Friday, May 22, 2020

Something Has to Change

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Monday, April 20, 2020

How to Break Up with Someone

Every relationship has its ups and downs. There will always be some kind of misunderstandings between couples, even when they are together for a long time. Your relationship may be perfect at the start, but it is not guaranteed that it will last forever. Things get clear when you both get to know each other deeply. When you spend some time with your partner, you get to know their interests, likes, dislikes, and moral values. After knowing each other, two things could happen. Either you could build up great chemistry, and the relationship becomes stronger, or you both find that it is not working anymore. In this case, you’ll need to break up.

Most of the people don’t think carefully when breaking up with someone and make a lot of mistakes. Today, I’ll let you know how you can break up with someone without being rude. Gracefully breaking up is much better than fighting and ending up with a completely spoiled relationship.

Think about yourself first
The most common problem with relationships is that you overthink about the other person. I’m not saying that you don’t have to consider your partner’s emotions and feelings. But ignoring yourself and giving all your attention to your partner will spoil the relationship. When breaking up with your partner, don’t worry about their emotions and feelings, as it is not your responsibility anymore. It works when you have finally decided that you both are not going to be together.

Don’t break up in public
Proposing in public could be a good idea but breaking up is not. When you know it’s time to break up with your partner, keep in mind that you should do this in person, not in public. There are different reasons for this. For example, you wouldn’t be able to speak up clearly and express your feelings about them in public. However, if you have reason to fear for your safety, then by all means, err on the side of caution. Do not put yourself in a dangerous situation. Additionally, if you feel emotionally vulnerable, it’s okay to wait until you feel stronger.

Talk to your friend
After spending some time with your partner, you may know that you both are not for each other. But, talking to one of your friends before breaking up can be a good idea. You can talk to one of your best friends or family members about your relationship and its current situation. Taking advice will give you more options than breaking up only. Ultimately, though, the decision is yours.

Express your feelings clearly
If you have decided to break up with your partner, it is time to say it all. Remember, ignoring them on the phone and staying away from each other is not the best way to break up. (Unless the relationship is abusive). You need to express your feelings in front of your partner. For this purpose, you need to set up a meeting. During the meetup, say everything that is on your mind. Also, let them know that you don’t want to be with them anymore. While doing this, don’t be rude or harsh with them.

Besides all these things, you may decide to give yourself and your partner a second chance. If you do, make sure this is a sound decision and not an emotional one. If your partner makes you feel bad about yourself, or brings out the worst in you, you may need to move on. Think about the totality of your relationship and decide whether you and your partner should seek professional counseling or coaching services.

Am I A Pessimist or An Optimist?

Optimism and pessimism are two contradictory terms. Optimism means positive thinking and keeping hope, while pessimism means negative thinking and not hoping for the good. However, who is better, an optimistic person or a pessimistic person? Who succeeds more in life? Who lives a happier and peaceful life? It is definitely the optimistic person who leads a happier and peaceful life and achieves success faster in life than a pessimistic person.

Studies show that optimism makes a greater impact on a person’s success, attitude, health and outlook. In addition, people who are pessimistic about their life have the tendency to get sick and die earlier than optimistic people. Generally, a person starts his or her career, relationships or any task with a positive or a negative attitude. You may say that why start if you are not convinced about the task or are in a negative frame of mind. Well, sometimes certain compulsions leave you to take up a task even if you are not willing to do so. In such cases, instead of trying to explain to people why you do not want to take up the task, think of the benefits it can bring to you. This way you can enjoy the task and start with a positive attitude.

Being an optimist gives you many benefits. You can live a longer life, you are happier in life than others are, you achieve the desired success, you get lovely friends, you have fun in life. Here only a few have been mentioned; however, there are countless benefits that you can reap being an optimist. Not to mention, the pessimists misses all these as they spend all their time bemoaning over their failures and accusing.

To know whether you are an optimist or a pessimist, you have to know yourself. You must have the ability to listen to the voice of your heart. Think of the times when you landed up in a negative situation, and how you reacted during those times. What sort of thoughts came to your mind in those days? How you took charge over the situation. Once you get the answer to these questions, you will know whether you are a pessimistic person or not. If you are, then do the necessary to change yourself to an optimistic person. There are plenty of resources available over the Internet or books that can help you change your attitude from a pessimistic to an optimistic person.