Every relationship has its ups and downs. There will always be some
kind of misunderstandings between couples, even when they are together for a
long time. Your relationship may be perfect at the start, but it is not guaranteed
that it will last forever. Things get clear when you both get to know each
other deeply. When you spend some time with your partner, you get to know their
interests, likes, dislikes, and moral values. After knowing each other, two
things could happen. Either you could build up great chemistry, and the
relationship becomes stronger, or you both find that it is not working anymore.
In this case, you’ll need to break up.
Most of the people don’t think carefully when breaking up with someone
and make a lot of mistakes. Today, I’ll let you know how you can break up with
someone without being rude. Gracefully breaking up is much better than fighting
and ending up with a completely spoiled relationship.
Think about yourself first
The most common problem with relationships is that you overthink about the
other person. I’m not saying that you don’t have to consider your partner’s
emotions and feelings. But ignoring yourself and giving all your attention to
your partner will spoil the relationship. When breaking up with your partner,
don’t worry about their emotions and feelings, as it is not your responsibility
anymore. It works when you have finally decided that you both are not going to
be together.
Don’t break up in public
Proposing in public could be a good idea but breaking up is not. When
you know it’s time to break up with your partner, keep in mind that you should
do this in person, not in public. There are different reasons for this. For
example, you wouldn’t be able to speak up clearly and express your feelings
about them in public. However, if you have reason to fear for your safety, then
by all means, err on the side of caution. Do not put yourself in a dangerous
situation. Additionally, if you feel emotionally vulnerable, it’s okay to wait
until you feel stronger.
Talk to your friend
After spending some time with your partner, you may know that you both
are not for each other. But, talking to one of your friends before breaking up can
be a good idea. You can talk to one of your best friends or family members
about your relationship and its current situation. Taking advice will give you
more options than breaking up only. Ultimately, though, the decision is yours.
Express your feelings clearly
If you have decided to break up with your partner, it is time to say it
all. Remember, ignoring them on the phone and staying away from each other is
not the best way to break up. (Unless the relationship is abusive). You need to
express your feelings in front of your partner. For this purpose, you need to
set up a meeting. During the meetup, say everything that is on your mind. Also,
let them know that you don’t want to be with them anymore. While doing this,
don’t be rude or harsh with them.
Besides
all these things, you may decide to give yourself and your partner a second
chance. If you do, make sure this is a sound decision and not an emotional one.
If your partner makes you feel bad about yourself, or brings out the worst in
you, you may need to move on. Think about the totality of your relationship and
decide whether you and your partner should seek professional counseling or
coaching services.
